Ellen Weeran tagged me in the My Writing Process
Blog Tour, and in one moment, I felt both honored and horrified at the same
time. She thinks I'm being funny when I say this, but really, I'm being honest.
Alas, out of love for Ellen and because she did say such nice things about me
(as I have never been called talented about anything. Ever. And while I call my
daughter funny as hell all the time, I've never been described that way) and
because it's lovely to have people who believe in you (even if they out you out
of the writer closet you are hiding in) I am back on a neglected blog I was
kind of hoping would just quietly go away. (Nothing against blogging. I get a
lot more writing done when not blogging - I haven't gotten facile at balancing
the two - but now I see Ellen will have me cause a breakthrough in this.)
Also, before I proceed, and because I haven't updated my will or located it in my filing cabinet, I will say here that I have told Ellen that if I die before I wake or however that prayer goes or if I get hit by a truck while riding my bicycle, she gets to write my obituary. Ellen will say really nice things while others would say something like, "Tara, despite 30 years of ballet still tripped while walking upstairs, was known to leave a concert, movie, or party if the book she was reading was better, and had a tendency to laugh too damn loud at mediocre Jesus jokes."
Also, before I proceed, and because I haven't updated my will or located it in my filing cabinet, I will say here that I have told Ellen that if I die before I wake or however that prayer goes or if I get hit by a truck while riding my bicycle, she gets to write my obituary. Ellen will say really nice things while others would say something like, "Tara, despite 30 years of ballet still tripped while walking upstairs, was known to leave a concert, movie, or party if the book she was reading was better, and had a tendency to laugh too damn loud at mediocre Jesus jokes."
Ellen's contribution to the My Writing
Process Blog Tour can be found here,
and if you keep clicking on the links to the previous writer's blog, you'll
meet some pretty amazing and inspiring writers. Apologies that my contribution
took over a week. I am a slow writer, and the death of Robin Williams knocked
me off a kilter (I know, I know, everyone else too.). I lost two days to crying
and making my children watch the Dead Poet's Society, but that could be a blog
post, should I choose to continue this thing.
To the questions:
1) What are you working on?
Just as Ellen has had her "Summer of Ellen," I've made 2014 my year to write "Some-God-Damn-Good-Stories-That-I-Can-Be-Proud-of-So-I-Don't-Die-Not-Having-Succeeded-At-Anything-Year." I have a very bad habit of writing lots, but not finishing anything. Like last year, I wrote 12 stories and 150 pages of a novel, but the stories all ended at the 3/4 point and the novel was half done. Alas, 2014 is all about completion. I do have one out making the contest and submission slush pile rounds as we speak. It's called "Reptiles"and was inspired by a drive my husband and I had to make from Denver to Texas in the midst of a blizzard as well as an iguana my husband had while he was in college and the fact that the iguana died when a blizzard hit and the power went out. Whatever happens to it, I am fairly proud of it, and I am happy to have it in the "complete" pile where I can shut the drawer on it.
I just finished another story, a true
short short story, as it is only five pages, called "Your Own Death on
Saturday." I just had it work shopped in my writers group, so I have one or
two more revisions and I'd like to shave 150 words off it. It's one part
inspired by my sister, one part inspired by a George Saunders story (though I
won't say which one), and one part inspired by Jim Henson's disclosure, that
when they didn't know how to close a sketch on the Muppets, they would either
cause an explosion, or have one character eat the other.
I have three other stories I am trying to
clear off my desk, and all three are heftier and longer, but I love them and do
a lot of writing in my head on them them when I'm not actually working on them.
One is called "At the Summer Palace" that I started on a trip to
China, one is called "Skinny Wayan,"
loosely based on a tour guide we met while traveling in Bali, and the last one
I don't have a good title for yet, nor do I have an elevator pitch type of
description for it.
And finally, I have another work called
"The Pope is in The East River" that I have spent over a year
rewriting and trying to cram into a short story despite all the suffering it
was causing me. I gave it to my dad to read (as I am fortunate to have a dad
who gives honest feedback, is a good reader, and is willing to talk me through
something), and he came back with his questions and comments, but when I told
him the vision in my head that I was trying to match, he said, "Yeah,
that's not a story. That's a novel." As someone who already has three
novels on her hard drive, I said, "no, you don't understand. This is my year
of God-Damn-Good-Stories." My writers group has read through it at least
three times (very patient and kind people they are), until one of them said,
"this is not a short story..." I said, "no no no, you don't
understand...." Finally, I sent it in to the One Story Workshop with a
feeling of dread and that awful-I'm-so-stuck-feeling,
only to find that people loved the voice, found it funny and quirky, while
lovable and smart, but also had very wise insights on how to fix it. And Ellen
succeeded where others had failed before her and said, "Tara. This. Is.
Not. A. Short. Story. It's. A. Novel." I waved my white flag of surrender
and now I walk around practicing admitting this project like someone who just
left their first 12 step program meeting: Hi, my name is Tara. I am
working on three longer short stories and a novel.
2) How does your work differ from others of its genre?
I wouldn't have said it before my workshop
with One Story, but now I
say it's funny, quirky, smart with a lovable voice and characters (even if one
is kind of bitchy). But I only say this as I don't know what else to say. I am
really interested in how personal stories and experiences intersect with larger
scale stories and happenings. The
Pope in the East River is largely about that with a character who has
a knack for getting knocked up during natural disasters (even if she just
happened to give birth) and knowing that the natural disasters are a result of
climate change, and how do you maintain your trust or faith that it's going to
work out or that the world is reliable when you are stuck in a state of
incomprehension or feel utterly out of control plus the weather is out of whack?
I do love teasing apart those ugly moments when a relationship unravels as well
as those beautiful moments when forgiveness and healing happen. For years I had
E. M. Forster's quote from Howard's End posted above my desk, "Only
connect, and the beast and the monk, robbed of the isolation that is life to
either, will die." I love exploring those spaces and moments where both
the beast and monk exist, like the loving and inspiring marriages where people
still say profoundly hurtful things to each other in an argument behind closed
doors. And I really love getting under the surface where people aren't saying
what they'd really like to, or those things people feel like they can't say,
like mothers who wonder why they had their children, boys who would just once
would love to throw a tantrum like the Incredible Hulk, but know they'll get in
trouble and who feel anger and confusion about the bizarre panoply of role
models that are supposed to inspire them and their morals, so on and so forth.
3) Why do you write what you do?
Coping mechanism mostly. Because I have issues that require grappling with on some level or I am trying to work something out for myself. I suspect, given that I've written since childhood, it's because I had a traumatic childhood, where my parents had a Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf type of marriage (except George and Martha in the play actually love each other on some level), and after they split, my sister went to live with my dad, while I stayed alone with my mother who was depressed, angry and a frequent migraine sufferer. Even when I try to write people that are very unlike me, at some point I realize they are me, at least on the level of my childhood self who is still seeking reassurance that it's all going to work out, even when you're surrounded by crazy people or crazy circumstances.
Many things I write because I am
curious about something. The
Pope is in The East River I
started all because when the Pope retired, WNYC announced it in the same sentence as
they announced that there were dolphins in the East River. I just thought, huh,
how often does that happen? And why are those two things connected? And for as
long the dolphins were in the East River, WNYC only talked about them in conjunction
with the Pope. So I started wondering what if you have someone who lacks trust
or faith, not in a religious or dogmatic sense, but trust-in-the-next-day-sense
or that it will work out, and who instead relies on the perpetuity of external
things like institutions or dolphin migratory patterns? Also see above where I
say something about liking to create stories that pivot on larger context
things that connect to individual people.
4) How does your writing process work?
I do a lot of scribbling, a lot of writing, loads of revising, and I try to find the most critical or smart readers I can, hand them red pens, and shove my drafts in their faces. I go through a lot of drafts. A whole lot of drafts. I waste a lot of paper. I was never one of those kids in school who could start a paper at the last minute, pull an all-nighter and get an A. Truth be told, I kind of hated those kids. When I took that route, I got anxiety attacks while my papers earned Cs. But I did learn early on that procrastination was the devil and drafts can be a huge gift. I also need deadlines and am constantly setting them for myself. Now I have much less anxiety (thankfully), and I just enjoy playing around with how things are going until it feels right or true (and I don't mean true, like factual true, but true the way bicycle wheels get aligned and balanced so that they can support hundreds of pounds of weight at various speeds. I don't know how else to describe that feeling of when I'm on the right track.). Though when I wrote poetry through high school, college, and into my thirties, I would get sudden flashes of inspiration that would require little revision. Same with things like parenting essays, letters to the editor, and shorter or flash fiction. But I think with longer stories, academic papers, and the novels I rack up on my hard drive I'm attempting to tease apart bigger knots.
I do get up early most mornings and write
for sanity's sake, especially as my husband has been working in China on what
was supposed to be a short term project but is now a into next year and longer
project and I've become a single parent. I now rely heavily on the things that
are grounding and make me feel good. I have 18 inches of counter space in our
kitchen for my laptop and notebook. When my kids are around, I can't open the
computer and maintain peace in the house, but I will scribble out story ideas
and revisions on 3 x 5 cards or in my notebook and I can get quite a bit
written that way. I used to time my kids' naps with a late afternoon subway
ride and would stay on the train and write as long as they slept - even if it
meant staying on the train way past our stop. I've gotten good at stealing
pockets of time. And in full disclosure, I have help with the children and
free-lance gigs that don't require too much time. I also shut off the Internet
on my computer or seek out places that don't have Internet. (Again, why
blogging can occasionally be a problem.) I just got approved for studio space
at the Center for Fiction in midtown and that's a huge help.
Doh! And the story about a bicycle and a voodoo doll? Do I have to
tell that now? I will come back to it, I promise, as I have been staring at a
computer screen long enough my eyeballs are beginning to spiral out of my head.
But thank you Ellen, for calling me out. At this point the horrified feeling is
completely gone, and I'm just left feeling honored that you think I'm worthy of
the attention!